How to handle and respond to temper tantrums?

BY THABITHA DAVID · PUBLISHED JUNE 15, 2020 · UPDATED OCTOBER 5, 2020

While most of the points that we have outline about are about how to reduce temper tantrums in kids. Help the kid to cope better. And deal with his or her behaviour and emotions by themselves.

While they might all be good. We understand that temper tantrums in kids are bound to happen. And parent will be left with no choice but to face temper tantrums from their children.

While we understand that this can be very frustrating challenging and sometimes feels helpless to the parent.

We have listed below some of the tips that parents can use to handle a tantrum episode from their kid.

Tips to handle tantrum episode

• Be perfectly calm (at least appear to be so) during the whole situation and try to avoid the behavior.
• If you fail to stay calm and you are at home. Your child is in a safe place. Then just leave them room for a few minutes to recollect yourself.
• Distract your child with some attractive things in the market or with effective communication. Start involving a child in whatever you are doing. Because every child loves to be of help to an adult
• Change the environment in which tantrum starts. Avoid it whenever possible.
• Calmly hold or hug the child if he/she is kicking or hitting someone until the child calms down. Your hug will not only be reassuring to the child but works as an effective way to control positively your child without intimidating the child.
• Talk calmly to your child acknowledging their feelings. Example if your child is cranky because your child is feeling sleepy. Talk to your child by saying. I know you are sleepy. Can you give me 5 minutes I will finish this work and we can rush home?
• Do not try to reason it out with the child when the child is visibly agitated. The child will be in no frame of mind to hear. It will only release their frustration level and in turn yours. Weather avoid the little one and quickly wrap up whatever you are doing to exit from the situation.
• Raising your voice scolding or threatening your child will only make your child more anxious and the scene much worse. Even if it gives you temporary relief avoid this at all cost so that your child is not start developing and anxiety related issues.

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• If your child is unreasonable and demanding. Asking for everything that their eyes falls upon. It is time that you take control of the situation. Stand firmly to your decision and do not given in to the tantrum. Since giving in at this point will only be a negative reinforcement to your child and you can expect many such tantrums to happen.
• Get commitment from your child beforehand on good behaviour before taking your child out. Example I always asked my niece if she will behave well if I take her out for movie. I have noticed that whenever she had committed, she had stood by it. However, when I ask for this commitment, she has also negotiated a popcorn or an ice cream during interval with me.
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Conclusion

All parents some day or the other face temper tantrums from their children. This does not mean that the parent has failed in parenting the child. There is no reason to feel depressed or guilty about it. Let me assure you that when your kid throws a temper tantrum it surely does not mean that you have raised a bad kid.

Statistics show that around 91% of the children up to the age of 3 have had temper tantrums some time or the other. Temper tantrums in kids is normal up to the age of 4 and usually subsites on its own.

There is nothing to worry if it is manageable and poses no grave danger to the child or others.

In most of the cases there is no need to seek outside help.

However, if.

• Tantrums become way too frequent.
• Continues frequently and more aggressively post age of 4.
• Tantrums that in some way can hurt somebody or the kid itself.
• Your instinct senses that there can be a deeper issue.
• You are unable to cope up with the stress caused by this.

Then it is OK to seek for additional help.

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